(excerpted from advice offered via a Facebook post in 2016)
Mom Tip: Boredom is not a bad thing. When a child is bored don’t look for a way to entertain them. They need a little time everyday when they don’t feel like doing all the normal things they usually do. They need time to think, ponder, reflect, tinker, wander, and think some more. Modern parents don’t realize that boredom is essential to childhood development and parents are quick to feed the child’s first desire: To be ENTERTAINED.
What is your child’s DEFAULT MODE when they have a moment of boredom? Some kids turn to a device, a game, TV, a book, a coloring book, go climb trees, start drawing, or of course they start whining, picking fights and complaining.
I will take a little time now to think of every person in my family and see if I can answer that question: What is the first thing they want to do when they have a moment of boredom or free-time?
Me: I default to cleaning… or nit-picking everyone else for leaving messes.
My Husband: He defaults to… me… He wants to have time with me, if I am busy he thinks of some errand to run.
Isaac (16): Music. He wants to go do something related to music.
Anna (15): Hmmmmm… 1st she wants to talk or play with her sisters. If they are busy she goes to her room and dumps out her creative stuff, or bakes or asks for the password for the computer, or bickers with her sister. She always finds something to do, and there is a lot of variety in her choices. She is the child who is NEVER bored.
Esther (14): Guitar practice and reading.
Rachel (13): Piano and Journaling.
Naomi (11): She wants to play Minecraft, but usually she takes the dog for a walk. If the weather is bad she rearranges all her stuff in her room.
Susie (9): She asks to use the computer, but usually ends up getting out an animal encyclopedia and makes tiny animals out of paper, then she cuts them out and gives them as gifts. She made a zillion little paper birds recently, I showed her how to create a book with them.
Laura (7): Wants to watch Dogs 101, over and over and over. If I say no, she finds someone to play with or fight with.
Joseph(6): Just started playing Minecraft a month ago. So first he asks to do that. When I say no he plays with Legos or draws Minecraft pictures.
Ember(3): Dumps her clothing drawer and puts on something that is her “favorite color” of the day. Once she changes her clothes she joins in on whatever Laura or Joe are doing. (click here to continue reading)