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Fun-Schooling & “The Let Them Theory”: A Perfect Match

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As a mother of 15 and the creator of Fun-Schooling, I’ve spent decades helping families embrace a natural, joy-filled approach to learning. Recently, as I’ve been reading The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins and listening to her podcast, I realized just how deeply her philosophy aligns with what I’ve been teaching through Fun-Schooling for years.

For me it started on the day I woke up, a homeschool mom of eight who was worn out micromanaging their education and depressed because there was no joy. So I said, “Today I will just say YES to whatever they want to do.” I had created a beautiful environment for learning, but curriculum was boring, limiting and too much work for me. I was drained and wanted to enjoy being a mom while homeschooling. I told my kids, “We are going to Fun-School today”. It was amazing. The learning that happened amazed me, and the joy set us all free.

Mel’s Let Them theory is about releasing control, allowing people to make their own choices, and letting go of the urge to micromanage. Fun-Schooling is based on the same principle—letting children study what they love, explore their passions, and skip the boring, outdated schoolwork that kills curiosity. Instead of forcing learning through rigid, one-size-fits-all curriculums, we let kids take the lead, trusting their natural desire to grow, explore, and create.

Here are ten ways Fun-Schooling and The Let Them Theory are a perfect match:

Let Them Learn What Excites Them

Mel Robbins encourages us to let people pursue their own interests, even if we don’t understand them. Fun-Schooling follows this same logic: if a child is obsessed with horses, let them dive deep into everything horse-related—biology, history, art, business, and storytelling—all through their passion.

Let Them Skip the Boring Stuff

Traditional education forces kids to memorize facts they’ll never use, leading to burnout and frustration. But what if we let them skip what doesn’t spark their curiosity? In Fun-Schooling, we trust that when a child is deeply engaged, they’ll develop the skills they need naturally.

Let Them Make Mistakes

Mel emphasizes that people learn best through their own experiences. Fun-Schooling embraces this truth—kids don’t need to get everything “right” the first time. They need freedom to experiment, fail, and try again without fear of judgment.

Let Them Go at Their Own Pace

Not every child learns on the same timeline, just like adults don’t all hit milestones at the same time. Fun-Schooling allows kids to develop skills when they’re ready, not when a curriculum says they should.

Let Them Create Instead of Conform

Mel Robbins challenges us to step away from people-pleasing and embrace individuality. Fun-Schooling does the same by giving kids the space to create, imagine, and build rather than just regurgitate facts.

Let Them Follow Their Curiosity

We trust that adults will figure things out when they’re interested in something—why don’t we extend that same trust to children? Fun-Schooling encourages kids to chase their curiosity, knowing that a self-motivated learner will always go further than a forced one.

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How to Organize the Chaos (Chore Charts & Home Learning Plan)

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Thirteen years ago, all the kids were 12 and under and I organized EVERYTHING. Now that they are all ten and up I organize very little moment by moment activity, I just make sure the basics are covered. Running a home with 8 kids under 12 was a very different season. Above is our “chore chart” for that season (see others below!). It was a great way to motivate and keep things on somewhat of a schedule. So funny that Esther at age 10 was going to the coffee shop for two hours a day. We lived on Main Street and she loved having her chill time there.

This was my actual Home-Learning Plan five years ago. It is simple for parents and delightful to kids!

  1. Logic Games
  2. Read Favorite Books
  3. YouTube Tutorials
  4. Nature Time
  5. Online Math Games or Serious Stuff
  6. Kitchen Time
  7. Spelling Games
  8. Complete 5 Workbook Pages or 5 Fun-Schooling Journal Pages
  9. Play Outside
  10. Art & Drawing
  11. Just Dance
  12. Chores
  13. Online Games (a reward for chores and school)
  14. Family Time and Board Games
  15. Movie Time
  16. Music Practice
  17. Dyslexia Games
    You can do these activities in any order, but Movies and Online Games should be close to last.

For chores, we would create new schedule once every 3 or 4 months. Everyone liked knowing exactly what areas of the house they were responsible for.

Chores are largely about teaching life skills and serving others. This journal can help!

Toddlers & Preschoolers: How to Choose Your Battles

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Why do little children do the opposite of what you say?
Why do preschoolers reject new foods and green leafy foods?
Why do toddlers refuse to share?
Why do preschoolers always want what the other child has?
Why do preschoolers fight bedtime?
How can I help my child to have a good attitude when cleaning up?
What can I do to help my child to behave, listen and obey?

A little over a decade ago, a friend of mine asked me to make a video about “Toddler and Preschool Behavior Problems” for her MOPS group. Here it is, featuring a tiny Ember Brown:

Learn more about our littlest Fun-Schoolers here.

Check out all of our journals for Preschoolers and Kindergartners here.

Early Education: A Playground for Real-World Skill Development

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In our family of 15, we don’t view k-12 education merely as a stepping stone to college. Our kids don’t even know what “grade” they are in half the time.

Instead of focusing on traditional academics, we see childhood as an exciting opportunity for our kids to begin crafting real-world skills centered around their passions.

As a homeschooling mom I get to create an environment for learning that inspires each child in the pursuit of their unique dream or calling, while exploring fulfilling options for a career.

Ages 2-5
From the outset, we introduce our kids to stories of passionate people who never give up, do great things and solve problems in the world. We are laying the groundwork for a life where work and calling intertwine. We love to read about people and find out about the jobs of the people we meet, from the high call of being a mommy or daddy, to the world-shaping influence of authors, political figures, heroes, artists and inventors.

I remember when my son Joseph was five, when he would meet someone new he would say “Hi, my name’s Joseph, I’m a scientist. What are you?”

Ages 6-9
We help our children to start a tiny business and engage with the world in ways that spark creativity and entrepreneurship.

  • Isaac’s bracelet-making and sword crafting were not just about making money but about igniting his creative and business acumen.
  • Leah, Ember, and Lilly’s craft sales at festivals were lessons in art, economics, and teamwork.
  • Rachel’s book reselling taught her about value, negotiation, and her love for literature.
  • Esther’s bath salts business combined chemistry with marketing, all while following her interests.

Ages 9-12
We deepen their engagement with their passions:

  • Providing resources like an aviary for Laura who is passionate about birds or a piano for Joseph who is gifted in music – these gifts allow them to live their passions daily.
  • We emphasize learning by doing, ensuring that education is not abstract but connected to real-life applications. Why learn something from a book when you can do it in real life? As homeschoolers we are not limited by the walls of a classroom!

Ages 13-20
Here, we move from exploration to mastery:

  • Investing in their vision on their 13th birthday We provide them with real tools to build their dreams, whether they lead to a career or a calling.
  • Skills taught are those they’ll use in their chosen paths, like marketing, leadership, or specialized knowledge.
  • We limit distractions to keep their focus on what truly excites and fulfills them. No phones until they are ready to run a business that requires it. They have to pay for their own phone, and we parents put filters on the device to keep the kids safe and productive.

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How to Teach Kids to Have Quiet Time/Bible Time

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I believe it is so important to understand how to nurture a child’s growing mind. I have a passion to teach them to be curious, to love learning, to research wisely and to grow in wisdom, understanding and knowledge. It’s been my lifework to understand why some children struggle to learn, read, and focus, and I dig deep into these matters sorting through vast amounts of research on the human mind to understand how to unlock the potential of each child. I work hard to find the answers and tap into the child’s gifts, no matter what their natural strengths and weaknesses may be. And I test these ideas and solutions and share them with the world, and many thousands of children have been able to overcome struggles related to ADHD, Autism and Dyslexia.

I also believe that it’s vastly important to nurture the child’s growing body, to give the child the best foods, vitamins, minerals, enzymes, and the right balance of proteins, fats and carbs. I research and learn what is good and what is poison and ensure the child has sunshine and exercise. Because what good is a strong mind inside a weak and sick body? You can not care for one and neglect the other. Mothers and fathers everywhere make it a priority to care for the mind and body of the child, hoping that the child will grow, thrive and be strong and wise.

But this is not enough. We must also nourish the soul and spirit and character of the child as well–and even more so. How often is the care of the spirit the last thing we even consider at the end of the day? To nourish the spirit of the child is of greater value than all other efforts we could ever make to feed the mind and the body. How many of us have children who are starving spiritually?

Parent, you reap what you sow. If you plant in your child the seeds of the Spirit your child will grow in the Spirit. If you build him up in character, he will become a man of honor. If your daughter is nurtured in the things of the Spirit she will grow in grace, glory and faith. But if a parent neglects the nourishment of the spirit, the soul and the character of the child, the impact in the life of the child will be more devastating than if you failed to nourish the body and the mind. So I ask you, loving mother, faithful father? How will you tend to the garden of your child’s soul today?

A Simple Plan

Here is something simple to begin with. Make each child a cup of tea and make one for yourself and then you all go to your quiet spots with a Bible and Journal. Tell them that when they are done with “Bible Time” it will be “serving time” where each person helps someone else in the family with their chores. Turn on some peaceful music during Quiet Time.

In short, you begin by demonstrating what this looks like.

For younger children, you can have them listen to a Bible audio book. Get a children’s Bible and use Bible coloring pages. We have a number of journals that will help!

Find many more journals for Fun-Schooling moms and kids of all ages here!

How to Fight Well with Your Kids

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This content originated from David Morris over on X

Parenting is hard. Parents have to choose their battles. Here are 8 fights worth picking with your kids:

The Reading Fight:

Make your kids read. Because reading is tied to everything from cognitive development to the ability to focus.

The Outside Fight:

Make your kids go outside. The natural world teaches us things. Plus, outside there’s sunshine, fresh air, and exercise waiting for them. Most importantly, nature is full of things in short supply in our world: Discovery, wonder, peace, joy.

The Work Fight:

Make your kids work. I’m saddened by how many parents don’t require their kids to lift a finger at home. There are priceless life principles you can only learn with a mop in your hand. Let sweat be their teacher.

The Meal Fight:

Make your kids eat as a family. Our lives are a blur of incessant activity. Meals together are a physical pause to recover a truth so easily sacrificed at the altar of busyness. Nothing’s more important than family.

The Boredom Fight:

Make your kids live with boredom. Don’t show a DVD on each car ride. Kids need unscheduled time. And, odd as it sounds, boredom is a skill. It’s hard as a parent to deal with the assault of boredom complaints. But if you give in and fill up their time with external stimuli, you’ll raise an activity addict. Make them learn how to be.

The “Me First” Fight:

Make your kids go last. Not every time for everything. But enough to remember that the world doesn’t revolve around them. Take the smallest piece. Give up the remote. Do someone else’s chores. Get their least favorite choice. They won’t like it, but they need it.

The Awkward Conversation Fight:

Make your kids have uncomfortable conversations with you. Sex, dating, body image, values…Your kids will roll their eyes and resist. You will stumble and stutter. They need and want your perspective, lessons learned, and wisdom.

The Limitation Fight:

Learning to live within limits is a valuable life skill. In fact, many adult problems arise from an inability to accept them. Screen time limits, dietary limits, activity limits, and schedule limits are all good.

As a parent, you have to pick your battles. They’re not easy, but they’re worth the fight.

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Turning Home Into the Epicenter of Human Life

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My house is a place of creativity, innovation, technology, tradition, beauty, art, music, good food, and education. Fun comes first!
As the one who organizes and orchestrates the events and environment for over a dozen children and an adventurous husband, I’ve embraced an opportunity to throw out the common uses of the rooms in my house.
Most houses were designed to serve as a place of relaxation and comfort for hardworking couples, and school age children. As a homeschooling mom and home-based entrepreneur I began to rethink the way Americans use their homes.
I saw the impractical design of a home as an opportunity to transform the underutilized living spaces into something far more useful and exciting.

What It Looks Like
Our kitchen is now a “Science Kitchen” and a place for fermenting, cooking classes, experiments, a place for making body-care products, and for inventing new remedies and recipes. In the past our kitchen was a birth center, where a few of our kids were born!
Our living room is a lending library and music room where family and friends gather to create music together and to read, share and borrow books. Our living room is also a place where children can play with puzzles and puppets. Sometimes it becomes a church, where we gather daily for Bible stories, worship and prayer.
Our dining room serves the usual purpose of a space for family meals, often squeezing two dozen of us around three tables! But often we set up the space as an Art and Game cafe! Watercolors, beads, and rubber stamps await the touch and imagination of creative kids. We added a coffee bar with three espresso machines and a beautiful assortment of ceramic mugs and flavored syrups. During the week the tables are used as a school space for my five or six youngest kids.

The nook attached to the kitchen is a tearoom, with a DIY tea making station complete with about twenty healing blends of loose leaf teas made from herbs, flowers and spices which were grown in our garden, foraged from our woods and meadows, and imported from around the world. On our recent trips to Italy, Greece and Israel we searched for local blends to bring home and recreate.
The media room in the basement is a Preschool Paradise – even though our youngest child is nine. We fill my house with young moms who have little ones every chance we get.
Our office is a studio of creativity, design, publishing, and relaxation for myself and my team of collaborators who often drop in to work on projects with me.
Our garage is a charging station for two Teslas and a Cybertruck. It is also a gym for my kids who are into fitness and bodybuilding, and another part of the garage is a pottery and jewelry making studio. My husband has a workshop in yet another section of the garage.
Half of the old barn has been renovated into a DIY creative space for neighborhood homeschoolers, complete with a Lego city, shelves full of games, a small stage, and loads of art supplies. The other half of the barn serves as an art studio for our daughters who are studying oil painting and drawing. The space also includes the set for a podcast studio.

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A Daughter is Your Legacy

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When I was about 14 years old, I started to feel angry about what feminism was doing to society. I dreamed of being a mother—specifically, a mother to seven daughters. When people asked me what I wanted to become, I would proudly say, “A mom and an artist.” Their reactions were always dismissive, as though they couldn’t decide which dream was worse, so they trashed them both.

But I didn’t let that stop me. I wanted to create a magical home for my children. As a child, I dreamed of living in a big Victorian house filled with treasures and souvenirs from all over the world. I imagined traveling with my daughters, teaching them to be great artists. I pictured a house full of pets, a kitchen filled with the smells of food from every culture, and a life brimming with creativity and adventure.

I always envisioned my daughters as teenagers who were smart, confident, industrious, and, most importantly, deeply in love with each other as sisters. When people told me it would be a shame to bring children into such a dark world, I would reply with conviction, “My children will be the ones to light up the world.”

I fought for that dream. I read pioneer love stories and Amish romances that inspired me to make everything from scratch and to create beauty everywhere I could. My roots gave me strength—my mother was a successful artist, her mother was the first female civil engineer in California, and her mother was one of the founders of the Humane Society. My great-great-grandmother left Bohemia at 19 to build a life for herself in New York City. Many of my ancestors were outliers, and I’ve since learned that several of them probably had traits of Asperger’s. They taught me resilience, optimism, and how to think differently.

These women inspired me to dream big. Despite their accomplishments, they always put family first. My grandmother adored Ronald Reagan, and even though I come from a line of intelligent, powerful women, they held traditional values, believed in their daughters, and cherished family. I wanted to pass that on. A daughter is your legacy—and I wanted seven.

As I watched feminism take root in my generation, I saw it corrupt many of my friends. They believed they couldn’t live fulfilling lives if they were “slaves” to children. But I’m so thankful I never bought into those lies. By the time I was 35, I was living my dream—I had seven daughters! And I didn’t stop there.

Motherhood is such a beautiful, life-giving gift, and I believe we need to encourage our daughters to embrace their own unique gifts, talents, purpose, and the joy of being mothers too.

If you are dreaming of forging a legacy of strength in your daughter, this is a valuable tool:

Parenting Through Trauma | The Bridge That Can’t Be Burned

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I’m parenting a lot of teens! It’s going pretty well. Having teens with early childhood trauma is a whole different experience! But we are really focusing on a parenting style called “Therapeutic Parenting” and learning a lot from others who have been down this road before.

If you have a friend who is parenting a child that lost their biological parents and perhaps biological siblings, be compassionate and extra kind. They are doing the world’s hardest job, and probably feel like they are drowning in teen hormones, trauma behaviors, thrill seeking drive, and lack of self regulation.

We are out here doing the hard stuff to rescue the hurting kids out of terrible places and we need grace. And we need to be careful to stay connected, seek help, and also help the teens to build healthy relationships with mentors who can speak truth, hope and words of healing into their lives…

But if you are that mentor, learn this: when these kids become comfortable with an adult or mentor, it gets messy. Deep down they don’t feel safe when they are safe, they were hurt by the adults who should have been their protection.

Building lasting relationships is very hard. It’s a ton of work for the parents and mentors, because it’s almost impossible to build a healthy relationship with a person who is not honest about who they are and what they need.

Deep down they are afraid that you will abandon them too, and the relationship is “too good to last”. If they trust you, you might see a window into their secret hurting heart, and you might become traumatized by their trauma. Why? Because you want to be a healing place, and you are not feeling like you are successful. You feel like you’re seeing more harm than good.

You gotta understand it’s not your fault they are still hurting! They may even try to convince you that it’s your fault they are still hurting. If you really loved and accepted them they would be happy by now!!! Right? Wrong!

They may also try to convince you, as the mentor, that their adopted parents are just like the ones who abandoned them and left them hurt and hungry. Yes you look around and see a loving family and safe home surrounding the child. You feel confused.

When they start to let the light in, when they start to let you in… the dark memories rise to the top like bubbles that need to pop or drift away.

Their past memories can feel just like the present when they come to the surface!

It is in these moments they begin the process of confiding, sharing, opening up, and it can scare you – if you are not aware. They may want to share their memories of hurts that happened 12 years ago… as if it happened yesterday, and when they do they want to be heard, comforted and assured that it’s not their fault and it won’t happen again. They are safe in their new family.

One little girl told her teacher that she was sad because her mommy hurt her really bad. CPS took the child away from that loving family. It was very traumatic for the child. Later when they evaluated the initial conversation it turns out that the little girl was telling her teacher about the biological mom that she had recently lost before coming into foster care. Happens all the time!

If the child is pouring out their deep pain and hurts to you as the friend or mentor, how do you know they are safe? They seem to be in the depths of distress! They are obviously hurting right now!

How can a child act like this if they are safe and loved?

Simple. When a child with trauma feels safe enough to reveal past pain they have to face that pain and go through the process of grieving that loss and letting go of the fear associated with that loss, reliving the shame, pain and abandonment. Reliving the day the police took them away from mommy–and mommy is mommy no matter what she did or did not do.

No child is equipped to handle this process. And you probably are not equipped either. I know I’m often taken by surprise and have my own doubts and fears rising as they relive their sorrow. Confusion seems to rule in these moments.

They are exploding or imploding. Are they actually safe right now? Is this a child who just needs a second chance with a better family?

Think about the process the current family went through to adopt or foster. Think about what you believe to be true about your friends who are raising a child with trauma, think about all the interviews, home studies, house calls, and counseling that the adoptive parents have chosen to endure to love and rescue this child.

There are foster parents and adoptive parents who are in over their heads or have issues.

Thank them for their sacrifice.

Childhood hurts run deep, the scars don’t fully heal. So what should we do? I’m learning! I’m looking for tips. I’m happy to share what I’ve learned from gloppy floppy failing, buttery success and tiny glimmers of progress.

If you are successfully helping, befriending, sheltering, assisting, counseling or investing in a person with trauma of any age, there’s s good chance the whole relationship will crumble within one to three month and they will run.

Why? Too close for comfort. They feel better with new relationships that have not seen their struggles, ugly truths, past mistakes, past hurts, and scarred heart. Will you stick with them when the bomb explodes? Will you not be blown to bits, and then run for your life? Will you stand on the other side of the bridge they set on fire?

This is hard stuff friends, and maybe you don’t have what it takes. Lots of well meaning people adopt a child and a year or two later that little child’s face appears on the “Second Chance Adoption” website. Some of these kids are only four or five years old!!! But their adoptive parents couldn’t keep putting out the fires and couldn’t keep the knives out of reach, and couldn’t save the dog, and couldn’t imagine another trip to the ER or another well meaning neighbor’s call to CPS. Yeah. It’s harder than we all imagine. They are just kids! And all kids need is love and safety. No. They don’t. Give those parents grace too, even if they had to make the painful choice to give up the child to a family that is better equipped.

We are doing our best to stick around. When they are lighting fire to the bridges, we build new bridges. We find a better hiding place for weapons of mass disruption. We keep our little biological children close, and our adopted kids closer. And we keep our marriage strong.

We adopted five at once. The oldest took off the day she turned 18, and never bonded in the very short time with us. The other four are experiencing all the beauty of adolescence right now.

It actually takes two full time parents around the clock and other brave adults stepping in when we need a break. My husband and I are blessed to both work from home and involve our children in our jobs as part of their schooling, just to keep an eye on them. We read mountains of books, and fail anyway, because whoever wrote that book didn’t know what my kid would do.

Thankfully we kinda sorta have what it takes, and we are about to celebrate five years. Though one currently is going through the “you are not my real mom and dad” phase… again. And one has been sneaking, lying, stealing, and experimenting with common teenage behaviors… and one is best friends with every attractive stranger who reminds the child of the bio mom or bio sister they lost… we are trying and most of all we love them so dearly. They are ours. But right now, we are having a really good week! On vacation giving them 100%. They wish we were always on vacation, like when they were with their summer hosting families who gave them unrealistic expectations for adoption!

When it’s too hard for us, it’s not too hard for The Father above. When we don’t know what to say or do, we turn it over to Our Redeemer who sacrificed Himself that I could be adopted into the Family of God. And when it’s hard to bear their pain and see their hurts, and be around when the bridges go up in flames, I remember who I am. I am just like them. And Jesus is the Bridge that can’t be burned.

Mom of 15 is Ready to Talk About Teenagers! “I’ve had 12! People were wrong about what to expect!”

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I’m a Mom of 15, and most of my kids are teenagers now.

I have three littles ones. The rest are 13 and up. It’s a lot of fun! I can’t tell you how much I love having a house full of teens!

My kids are smart, funny, resourceful, kind, and responsible. They have great personalities and are using their talents to do cool things in the world.

They love each other, their parents, and God.

When my kids were little, people used to say “Just wait until they’re all teenagers!” Like it was going to be this horrible thing. I feel like we did something right. I think it’s been investing in them, loving them, and planting good seeds. We’re an example of what we want them to become.

Our kids are amazing and they bring so much joy. Our life is full and busy. Every day is a party. They are so much fun and bring me so much joy!

I am so proud of who my children have become.

For a while, I didn’t want to speak up about raising kids because I didn’t know how mine were going to turn out. I was hesitant to share my parenting strategies. So many stories out there about people who were showing off their parenting skills with elementary-aged kids who went nuts as teens!

I was worried my kids would rebel as teens and make a fool of me. Why? Cause that’s what everyone was saying! I was believing I could plant good seeds, pull the weeds and give my children a life like a well tended garden… and I believed they would thrive as teens and beyond.

So many people said it doesn’t matter how you raise your kids in the end, once the world and pop culture suck them in… my kids are kinda dominating pop culture 😂😂😂😂 and being smart, wise and kind!!!

Don’t miss my daily episode of “30 Seconds at Sarah’s House.” What to expect when you are a mom of 15 and all but three kids have hit the teen years!

Most of my kids are about a year apart, some closer! What’s it like now that most of them are teenagers? A bunch of my kids were adopted from Ukraine when they were 6 to 16! We tried our best to read a lot of books, took a couple parenting classes and now we are finding out what it’s like to parent teens and young adults!

I have a lot to say and share. Follow me on YouTube to see my family in action. I hope it inspires you in your parenting journey.