The Story of Our First Co-Op

Photo from a 2022 Co-Op at Olive Branch Farm

Simply Living

A new co-op introduces Indianapolis area families to the joy of cutting back to the basics in life.

By T.J. Banes, first featured in the Indy Star on April 29, 2002

While many 20-something women may be running the career fast-track and juggling duties at home, Sarah Brown is slowing down and inviting other women to do the same.

She recently formed a family co-op called Simpler Times, which introduces people to the joys of basic living. News of her effort has spread by word of mouth, and her mailing list now includes more than 200 names.

Most co-ops start with a shared interest in benefiting a local economy, said Phil Schutt, grocery buyer for Bloomingfoods Market and Deli in Bloomington. That co-op, which specializes in locally grown organic foods, has two locations and has been in operation for 26 years.

Sarah wants people in her co-op to share their goods and services in exchange for points. No money will be used.

Twice a week, her 3-acre property comes to life with the company of other moms and tots, working the garden. Occasionally, her husband, Josh, 24, has to stop a farm animal from munching on the Brussels sprouts.

“I’d say I’m traditional, but not modern,” said Sarah, 25, the mother of Isaac, 3, Anna, 2, and Esther, 7 months. “I just don’t want the rest of the world to influence what I do and when I do it.”

Karen Kornelsen, 25, a stay-at-home mother who lives on the city’s Southeastside, said she loves being outside barefoot digging in the dirt.

Recently, she set out plants while her 9-month-old daughter, Laura, slept in a backpack. “Being part of Simpler Times allows me to fellowship with other women and to bring home fresh produce so we can eat healthy.”

Eventually, the co-op’s harvest will become part of a twice-monthly trading day on Fortville’s Main Street.

Both the garden, and the trading day, mark the beginning of Sarah’s attempts to spread the simple life to other families. In addition to produce, families trade homemade baked goods, crafts, used clothing and books.

Click here to read more and find out about the perfect tool for you to use in setting up your very own Co-Op!

The Beautiful, Calming Power of Core Journals

As a homeschooler myself I enjoyed delight-directed learning, library-based homeschooling, unschooling, and lots of unit studies and learning through projects. My education as a homeschooler was fun, but very spontaneous and disorganized at times.

As a homeschool mom, I began to study many philosophies of education and thought I had to pick just one at first. We started with Classical Education and Unit Studies, but that all fizzled out when I started homeschooling my second child who was adyslexic super creator and the third who was a genius type of neurodivergent detective!

By my fourth formal year of homeschooling my 5, 6, 7 and 8 year olds, I had introduced a eclectic array of homeschooling techniques that were inspired by Charlotte Mason, Jon Holt, Maria Montessori, Edith Schaeffer, the Bible, and my mother! All while mixing in the classical techniques that worked well for my oldest son.

People asked us if we were unschoolers, because my children’s activities revolved around their needs, curiosity, passions and childish career dreams. With children these ages, we did so many projects instead of workbooks to understand how the world works… and how to master it!

Combining travel, adventure, nature, real books, art, people and love created the theme of our learning adventure that revolved around three meals a day in a big Victorian house on Main Street. But unlike unschooling, we were seeking organization, a schedule and rhythm to our learning process. We were trying everything and experimenting with everything based on my leadership in the home, while honoring the curiosity of each child. We called it Fun-Schooling.

Autumn Crafts & Fun-Schooling Ideas

Autumn is one of the best times of year for a variety of reasons – holidays, family gatherings, and of course the changing of the leaves! As a way to learn from and cherish the season, here are a few activities your fun-schoolers can do during the fall:

  1. Leaf Identification & Prints Take a nature walk to collect leaves, and teach kids to identify different tree types! Once home, you can use paint or other art materials to create leaf prints by pressing painted leaves onto paper. This introduces children to plant science and creates beautiful fall art. It’s perfect for younger children, and gets them inspired by and connected with nature!
  2. Pumpkin Science & Math Pumpkins and gourds are great for hands-on learning! You can teach your children how to measure their heights, circumferences, and weights, then compare pumpkins of different sizes. For a long-term project, you can also carve or decorate a pumpkin, and plant its seeds to observe how they grow!
  3. Autumn Sensory Bin
    Fill a bin with seasonal items like dried leaves, small pumpkins, pine cones collected from your yard! Then, you can let your kids explore the textures and sizes, practicing sorting and scooping. This activity promotes sensory development and imaginative play!
  4. Fall Harvest Collage
    Provide construction paper, fabric scraps, and dried leaves for kids to create a fall harvest scene or abstract collage! This craft encourages creativity and fine motor skills, all while celebrating autumn colors and textures! It’s also a fun way to learn what sorts of leaves and seeds are in your yard during the autumn season!
  5. Autumn Storytime & Craft Read a fall-themed book to your children, or have one of your older children read to the younger ones! Afterward, have kids create a craft based on the story, like making their own scene or even a fall item, like a scarecrow! This combines literacy, creativity, and storytelling.
  6. DIY Bird Feeders Teach your children about wildlife by making bird feeders from pine cones, peanut butter, and birdseed! Hang them outside to attract birds and observe different species, helping children understand the importance of nature conservation! You can even use the Fun-Schooling Birdwatching Journal!

Find more nature-themed Fun-Schooling journals here!

How I Homeschool My Boys for Success

Today I sit down with my husband Josh, and our sons Isaac and Joe. All three have vastly different reasons for learning and following their passions and interests, but they all have something in common: The WAY they were raised!

Join us through all of their journeys- from public education to home education. Learn about how Josh Fun-Schooled on the weekends while attending public school, and how that led Sarah and Josh created a Fun-School environment for their children so that they could pursue any avenue they were interested in.

Josh, Isaac and Joe have had many passions, and many opportunities to follow those interests. It’s our job as parents to keep fueling their fire, and pivot when they’re ready to chase something new!

Learn about how to spark interest within your children, empower your children to follow their interests, and how to fuel their fire.

Listen to the whole podcast here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EUZ-zeipZwk&t=1610s

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Our Approach to Education | The Value of Following Interests and Learning How to Generate Wealth

In our family we approach education from the perspective of helping our kids build their career from the earliest age possible. I’ll share year by year what it looks like:

Ages 2 to 4:

We read stories together about people who do great things.

Ages 5 to 9:

Ages 5 to 9 we help our kids understand that they can create something of value or add value to something to generate wealth. This understanding of the power to create value sparks an entrepreneurial mindset that is the foundation of future success.

Here are ways we did this:

– At age 8 Isaac learned to take 50 cents worth of glass, stone and metal beads, create a bracelet using beautiful designs and color schemes and then sell the bracelets 2 for $15.

At age 10 Isaac learned to use my scroll saw to take $8 worth of pine and turn it into 10 wooden swords that would sell for $10 to $15 each.

-at ages 5, 7 & 9 I got a booth at a winter festival for Leah, Ember and Lilly where they could each sell a their handmade crafts that were perfect stocking stuffers. They each took low cost materials and made a variety of items to sell, they made hundreds of dollars.

– At age 5 Rachel would pick out children’s books at yard sales, usually 10 to 25 cents each, and resell them for $2 to $5 each at a farm store we volunteered to help out with.

– At age 7 Esther had a bath salts business, taking 30 cents worth of salts and essential oils, packaging them up pretty to sell for $4 each.

Ages 9-12

At around age nine the focus of school begins to shift from play, exploring, experimenting, learning to read, and starting tiny businesses to a focus on the child’s passions, hobbies and career dreams.

Whatever each child is passionate we begin to allow them to dive deeply into that passion so they can become experts on the topics they love, and learn relevant skills and knowledge.

We allow them to study and research that passion so diligently that they need to begin using high level learning materials to satisfy the level of curiosity that they develop, often reading adult level materials and getting involved in real world experiences based on their passions. For Laura, at age 11, we built an aviary so she could have a bird sanctuary for her rescued birds. Our son Joseph needed a piano. Our daughter Abby needed a kiln for her pottery hobby. Ember needed a garden. Chrissy needed tons of yarn. I would also participated with the kids in these hobbies and enjoy learning alongside them.

At this point we provide field trips, volunteering opportunities, training and provide the child with a personal library and access to documentaries about that topic. We get them some professional quality tools to help them explore, and lessons if possible.

We focus on basic academic skills related to the child’s passion. This is the model of learning through age 13. The kids are welcome to change their focus as they either spark a new interest (one thing often leads to another, or they get bored because that interest was not really their element.

Ages 13-20

In the early teen years the child is encouraged to embrace a passion and begin to turn it into a career. For their birthday we celebrate the theme related to their career dream. This is the key: the kids know it’s coming!

They know leading up to this day that if they want to start a business they need to propose a vision to us parents and we will spend over $1000 to invest in what they need to launch, and we will pair them up with an apprenticeship, coach, courses, masterclass or trusted friend who had succeeded in the trade or calling they want to pursue.

I have paid $100 a week for private lessons or coaching – one on one from an expert. We do this instead of college, and it’s much more affordable.

Instead of traditional high school math, my kids learn economics, civics, business, marketing, social media skills, consumer and business technology, and leadership. We get their books on these topics at the FedEx office book rack, and we use the Uncle Eric Series by Blue Stocking Press.

Ages 13-18 each of my kids are permitted to let go of any expectations related to education that steal time from their business development, career goals and training. And we don’t give them phones and devices until those things are essential for their business marketing work.

They are not free to use devices in an unlimited way, the devices are locked down to eliminate time wasting behavior, they also have time limits and only run approved apps. The goal is for the teen to not be distracted.

We don’t ever give the kids money or buy them things they want, unless it’s Christmas or a birthday, but even on these days our gifts are empowering and often related to their passion. And now, we give the gift of time.

It has been said that it takes about 10,000 hours to become world class in your trade. Between ages 13 and 18 the kids are diving into their work, business, skill building and experience- and getting in their 10,000 hours.

They get jobs or create jobs to generate funds to support their passions and callings. They often pay for their own mission trips, camps, travel, and such. We often pay for educational expenses.

In my experience they have all built businesses that be one sustainable to support them before age 20. Not only are my children incredibly skilled, they are confident, happy, and live low stress lives with a focus on relationship.

During the teen years we do have required reading for our children, and they participate with the whole family during morning devotions, and social studies discussions, and we eat meals together where we have wonderful conversations.

The older kids help teach the younger ones, and everyone is responsible for different parts of our home, to keep them clean and to contribute at meal times. We give each child a lot of experience learning through hospitality and missions. We also give each child an opportunity to participate in the family business to be able to produce books about their passions and earn some passive income through publishing.

Our kids usually have a major project before graduation that sometimes requires a larger investment, not always. Sometimes they need a setting where they can accomplish their goals. Isaac needed a recording studio and film-making equipment- he generated the income to pay for it at age 17.

Esther wanted the family to move to Hawaii so at age 16 she could launch her photography business in a very strategic way. It worked out!

Anna needed to go to Poland and LA to produce her first album.

Naomi needed us to move to a farm in Indiana where she could get horses.

Rachel and Susie needed us to turn a barn into an art studio.

Laura needed a camera and phone and a job at a bakery at age 15 so she could fund her many travels as a teen travel blogger. The rest of the kids generally didn’t get phones until 17.

In our experience, each child has followed a unique path, based on their own gifts, passions, callings and unique opportunities. We don’t put them on the same track, requiring them all to do the same thing. Each one thrives and shines in their own way, and we are delighted to avoid paying for college! By investing early in their career dreams they are able to become exceptionally skilled and achieve a level of maturity and ability that is not common in today’s teens and young adults. They are capable of supporting themselves while living their dreams, well before their 20’s.

People may think that our methods are expensive or require too many life changing actions.

What this method does not require is the expense of a degree (often $100,000+). We don’t have to send our kids off alone to other states and cities, uprooted from their families, friends, community, church and the lives they have built… to detach completely from the foundation we built in childhood. At college our children are often trained in a pattern of thinking that isn’t congruent to the values of our family, often causing depression, disillusionment and detachment for the young adult.

We will do whatever it takes to build the lives of our children on a strong foundation, and rather than uproot them, we simply provide them with wings, and they can land back at home whenever they desire.

Top Journals for 6th Graders

6th grade seems to be the grade nobody quite knows what to do with. Are they middle schoolers or elementary? Should we call them kids still? Fun-Schooling allows families to let their 6th grader find independence and autonomy in what can be a confusing season of growing up.

Since most areas place 6th graders in Middle School, we also suggest you check out our post of tips for Fun-Schooling Middle School.

Our journals are super flexible in terms of age. You’ll see kids age 8 through 18 using the same journals. It’s all in the materials you use alongside them. Kids can repeat the same journal- especially core journals. Some kids have done the same core 4 or 5 times!

The Top Fun-Schooling Journals for 6th Grade

Bundles for 6th Graders

Bundles are great for this age because they invite independence and provide structure. We include a lesson plan kids can follow along with.

Here are our 6th grade bundle options. Click the image below to be taken to the suggested lesson plans and journal descriptions. We have one bundle that’s more girl focused, another that’s boy focused, and one for kids with Dyslexia/ADHD or other learning challenges.

The journals from these bundles are available for sale individually on Amazon and most are PDFs on our website as well.

More 6th Grade Journals

These journals are also popular for 6th Graders

We suggest working through the single-country journals starting at this age if you haven’t started them yet, see our bundles for suggestions on the order to do them in. Start with your country’s journal first, if possible.

All About Dogs- Fun-Schooling Journal– Cover every subject with a fun dog theme. Kids will learn about dog breeds, jobs, and more. Even includes math practice!

Inventions & Inventors Students will study 30 of the most impactful lessons of all time. Space is included in back for them to research inventions of their own interest too.

Grades 6 to 8 Fun-Schooling Journal is one of our most in-depth core journals. This is a Christian-based journal with tons of variety and Bible study included.

Top 30 Grammar Mistakes dives into the most common Grammar mistakes and gives students plenty of practice using proper grammar rules.

Tropical Birds Research Journal Students will research, finish activities, color, and enjoy breathtaking photography of 26 different tropical birds.

Yum-Schooling 15 recipes to teach children how to bake, calculate, measure, spell, use logic, serve others, apply science, and be creative. Create delicious dishes to share with the whole family while working on building your skills and learning.


What other journals is your 6th grader using? Share in the comments to help other families!


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About the Author- Amanda Osenga is a Fun-Schooling mom in Columbus, Ohio. She is also the social media manager and a Virtual Assistant for Thinking Tree. Her family combines Thinking Tree books with the Charlotte Mason method using books from Ambleside Online and Wildwood Curriculum. In her free time, Amanda is an avid reader and loves to be outdoors.

Sarah’s Mom Tip | Motivation of Love vs. Fear

Life Skill # One: How to feel motivated by love and a desire to create and explore- rather than being motivated by the FEAR of mistakes and imperfection!

Everything about traditional schooling is FOCUSING on a child’s mistakes and judging them by every little thing they do wrong instead of the many things they do right.

Success and happiness in schooling is based on getting nothing wrong. So kids grow up thinking that a mistake is a sign of failure.

Kids should be free to make mistakes in the process of mastering skills and studying academics. WHY? Because learning to work through life without being a PERFECTIONIST is one of the most needed skills!!!

How many of us think we will never be good enough?

Why are we hyper-focused on our own small shortcomings?

Why are we always obsessed with those three things we got wrong in a day instead of the 1,000 things we got right??? Yeah that time you yelled at your kid on Christmas Day!!!! But it’s really not a big deal!!! Look at all those beautiful moments you shared and those memories YOU created and all the love you poured into each gift under the tree!

So what’s going on here?

In school kids learn to make their lives revolve around perfectionism and fear of failure… or we just give up and believe that we will never be enough.

Please, don’t give in to this style of raising and educating children!!!

This is why Fun-Schoolers thrive! Fun-Schoolers are free, confident, creative, optimistic and comfortable with TRYING and TRYING again. Fun-Schoolers create journals and portfolios that show their progress and illustrate their personalities and passions. When your kids are fun-schooling they learn through real life skill building.

If you are afraid you will never measure up, if you are always focused on the shortcomings of the people you love, if you think that mistakes represent failures- you need to let go of all that pressure you grew up with when someone (everyone) tried to standardize YOU and put you in a box called “perfect”.

Try to rethink your own perspective on what is “good enough” but being grateful for the way you did 1000 things well yesterday, even it you flubbed up 5 or 10 times!!!! You were amazing! Move on from the failure mindset and embrace GRACE for yourself and your kids. And your spouse too!!!!

You can start the new year with NEW EYES that see the 1000 good things instead of those few faults… in yourself and in your world.

You are going to be okay. And I’m ready sorry that the stupid education system you grew up in told you you will never be good enough! It’s not true. You are a gift, a blessing, a treasure, you are worthy of love and what you do us good enough!

Top Journals for Middle School Students

Fun-Schooling helps Middle Schoolers transition from their childhood years to teen years by providing a perfect balance of structure and flexibility. Students can cover all the required subjects- and electives- in a non-threatening way. Your Middle Schoolers will be able to work at their own pace, pursue their interests, and work on a lifelong love of learning.

Lots of the journals Middle Schoolers use are also popular High School options. So check out both of our High School journal suggestions here and here.

Our journals are super flexible in terms of age. You’ll see kids age 8 through 18 using the same journals. It’s all in the materials you use alongside them. Kids can repeat the same journal- especially core journals. Some kids have done the same core 4 or 5 times!

The Top Fun-Schooling Journals for Middle School Students

Bundles for Middle School Students

Bundles are great for this age because they invite independence and provide structure. We include a lesson plan kids can follow along with.

Here are our Middle School bundle options. Click the image below to be taken to the suggested lesson plans and journal descriptions.

The journals from these bundles are available for sale individually on Amazon and most are PDFs on our website as well.

More Middle School Journals

These journals are also popular for Middle Schoolers

We suggest working through the single-country journals starting at this age if you haven’t started them yet, see our bundles for suggestions on the order to do them in. Start with your country’s journal first, if possible.

50 Creative Writing Prompts- Teen Girls and Teen Guys– Writing prompts with art to help your student get writing!

Reading Time– 180 pages to for your student to document what they are reading. Includes several different options for how to track their reading life- both personal and school books.

Grades 6 to 8 Fun-Schooling Journal is one of our most in-depth core journals. This is a Christian-based journal with tons of variety and Bible study included.

Travel Dreams 30 Fascinating Cities– Students will study each city as if they are planning a trip, covering various topics such as food, fashion, culture, history, navigation, tourism, architecture, and much more.

All About Butterflies– 200 Activities for students who are interested in butterflies, flowers, ecology, science and nature.

Pirate Pronunciation– If your Middle Schooler has not yet completed this journal, now is the time! This pirate-themed book includes cursive, art, poetry, story writing, comic creation, and more. It will teach even the most reluctant learners these important basics.

The Athletes Fun-Schooling Journal & Olympic Research Handbook For students who love sports! Cover all the required academic subjects and dive into the wonderful world of sports.

Life Skills Provides 36 essential skills to know before launching into adulthood. Includes fun hands-on activities and lots of practice opportunities.

Explorers & Pioneers– Students will research over 30 historical figures from worldwide and the ages. We have chosen to focus on a diverse assortment of men and women who impacted the world through their discovery, exploration, and pioneering efforts.

How to Make Money An interactive guide to uncovering passions, igniting ambition, and providing the practical tools needed to set and accomplish financial goals. Great for students to discover what they’d like to do in the future.


PEEK INSIDE these journals and more here

What other journals is your Middle School student using? Share in the comments to help other families!


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About the Author- Amanda Osenga is a Fun-Schooling mom in Columbus, Ohio. She is also the social media manager and a Virtual Assistant for Thinking Tree. Her family combines Thinking Tree books with the Charlotte Mason method using books from Ambleside Online and Wildwood Curriculum. In her free time, Amanda is an avid reader and loves to be outdoors.

Homeschooling Middle School, Drama Free!

I have talked to countless moms who say their experiences in middle school are partly why they choose to homeschool. Middle school can be a confusing, overwhelming, and sometimes painful time. Fortunately, homeschooling middle school allows us to mitigate some of this. This is a transitional season between childhood and young adulthood. Today, we’ll talk about ways to make it a delight!

How old are most Middle Schoolers?
7th graders are usually 12-13 years old & 8th graders are usually 13-14 years old.

Typical Academic Ability for Middle Schoolers

  • May want to plan and take ownership over a lot of their schooling and scheduling.
    We highly encourage this!
  • Complete most work independently, but may still need some help/ enjoy working with you- friend learners will especially enjoy working with someone else.
  • School day is about 4 hours with lots of time left to explore their interests.
  • Can comfortably read independently.

    Math abilities-
  • Solid knowledge of addition, subtraction, multiplication, and division.
  • May still need assistance with long division and may not yet know all their multiplication facts.
  • Becoming more comfortable with fractions, decimals, and percents.
  • Can solve word problems.
  • Accurately count out money/ give back change.
  • Basic understanding of geometry.
  • Working on how to follow a receipt and convert to different amounts.
  • Can begin to focus on the math skills they’ll need in their everyday life.

    Language & Grammar skills
  • Can appropriately use slang & metaphor.
  • Know most of the basic parts of speech. 
  • Can write a short composition.
  • Some kids will still do best dictating to you and having you write or drawing instead of doing much writing.
  • Most are competent spellers for high frequency words and can sound things out w/ relative accuracy for other words.
  • Can give a good retelling/narration either verbally or in writing of what they’ve read.
  • Handwriting still needs to be practiced and lots of kids this age are working on cursive.
  • Copywork is still important & helpful.

Can be a challenging age as they move towards more independence and yet still need their parents.

Remember– This blog series is based on the average level for the grade/age. The bell curve is extremely important to remember throughout this series. Some children will fall outside of this average. We’re homeschooling middle school for a reason- so we can customize our children’s education to their unique academic level and needs.

Middle School Developmental Milestones

At this age, lots of kids get serious about their majors and developing the skills & knowledge they need for their future & may even start a business. This is also the age where families start focusing more on Life Skills and the tools they’ll need in adulthood.

Kids this age often have deep friendships, are passionate about pursuing their interests, and not as interested in traditional “play” anymore. Socially they understand body language, nuance, jokes, sarcasm, and puns more. Though these skills will continue to develop through adolescence. They may want to spend lots of time on sports, crafts, hobbies, and other activities. It’s not unusual for middle schoolers to spend hours perfecting something they’re learning about or working on a new skill.

Hormones are shifting intensely during these years. Some kids are fully in puberty by now and should have a good understanding of the changes they are/will go through and what puberty is. They’re often much more physically mature than mentally/emotionally- which can throw parents for a loop! Emotions can be wild and intense!!! Coordination, balance, and the way their body moves may be awkward/clunky like toddlerhood. Some may want to start dating (!) or have boy/girl friends.

Students at this age w/ learning disabilities, special needs, and learning differences are aware of their unique abilities. It’s an important time to help them see their super powers and unique gifting while also finding ways to help them develop a love of learning. This can be especially true for kids coming out of public school who may need a season of deschooling before doing much school work.

Middle Schoolers are notorious for questioning things more. They are wired to no longer take things at face value. This is a stage of rapid brain growth and you’ll see that in the questions they ask. Many like to start in debate at this age.

Let your Middle School students deep dive into their interests

Common Challenges Homeschooling Middle School & Tips to Overcome Them

Have a student who is sometimes spacey, distractible, or seems obsessed with something?
It’s 100% normal at this age. We jokingly call it the “Brain Dead Stage.”

Students who want to rush through or skip their work-
Check out this post for tips!

Students who have no idea what they want to major in
This post should help.

Students at this age may get overwhelmed or shut down with too many choices-
Try combining multiple subjects into one study. This is a good age for unit studies and in-depth journals.

Tips from Middle School Moms

E.A. says- “Give them more freedom, let them make more choices and give them more responsibility for their learning—they will rise to the occasion 😍 I have found that my middle school boys don’t love all the coloring….so we skip that, 1 loves the mazes, the other doesn’t so do what they like…that’s ok 😃 middle school is a hard time of child one day/teen the next and they sometimes want to do “little kid” things and then the next day “that’s for babies” 😂😂😂 sometimes it is hard to keep up 😂😂😂 lots of prayers, lots of conversations and lots of hugs (if that’s is ok today 😂)”

R.P. says- “One thing I’ve noticed with my middle schoolers is giving them the freedom to choose their learning/projects based off interests. One of mine strongly dislikes math but is super passionate about horses so we incorporated math in with the horse thinking tree book (measurement, calculating fence posts vs length needed etc) it’s made a big difference. I may request a presentation but it doesn’t have to be a written paper, sure make it a PowerPoint& verbal presentation 😉

L.G.- “My middle schoolers (grades 7 & 😎 like to do a combination of Fun schooling Journals, online Unit Studies or online courses in their majors. We also regularly incorporate games and movies as part of their learning. They like to get out of the house a couple times a week for library events, as well. I find variety works well for them. For Math they like Life of Fred, but we are taking a break and doing Kitten Math, a super fun book that uses practical math skills. The kids pretend they are fostering kittens. They all beg to do this book so it’s definitely worth a break from their regular math curriculum. They are also having fun learning Latin and Greek roots as a card game. I love teaching vocabulary through roots, as it gives them so much decoding ability when it comes to new and unfamiliar words. Mostly, I follow Sarah’s excellent advice and allow them to focus on their passions.”

S.H.- At this age, I feel like it’s especially important to keep prioritizing relationships over academics. Let them sleep. Let them eat good food (ALL of the food 😂). Let them take the reins as they grow & mature, and give them the freedom, the gift of time, to grow into the young man or woman God intended them to be. It’s a time to expose them to all sorts of different things & unique experiences so that they may discover their passions & dive into them fully.


We hope this helps you feel more prepared as you’re homeschooling your middle schooler.
Check out our post with the most popular journals for this age to plan your Fun-School Middle School.


Concerned about gaps in your child’s education? Check out this post.


Parenting Teens is a Delight for Me. Yes, Really!!!

I have a really fun and peaceful relationship with my adult kids and my teens. They love spending time with our family and come to me for advice and ideas. I believe a lot of this success is attributed to the fact that our parenting style was not stagnant- it grew and changed with our kids.

When your children are little babies and toddlers the role of the parent is a lot like a “Lifeguard”. Your job is to keep them alive because they can’t survive without your constant care and intervention. They have not developed their own logic or understanding of danger. Of course you are so much more then a lifeguard in this season- but if you are not fulfilling the role of lifeguard the consequences can be devastating.

When your children are growing beyond preschool stage, and before they hit the tweens the role of parents is no longer lifeguard but often you find it necessary to play the part of “Law Enforcement” and “public safety”. You are teaching them about boundaries, behavior, rules, and providing consequences when they test the limits. You are making sure they don’t get caught up into habits of lying, stealing, sneaking, and going into dangerous situations that they are unaware of. You are choosing friend groups for them and keeping them out of trouble. You are so much more than police-mom, but if you don’t informed healthy boundaries at this point the consequences can be devastating.

Once they reach the tweens they usually know the rules, they are developing character, they have tested the basic boundaries and are ready to get in the game! They are really for responsibilities, and new freedoms! They have built relational skills, learning skills, life skills under the supervision and guidance of the parents and now they no longer need mom and dad to be the police.

At this age they need a “Coach”. This is when life with your growing kids gets fun! It’s about empowering them to become who they were meant to be, while you give them encouragement, support, and fair discipline- taking them out of the game and having meaningful talks on the bench when they abuse their freedom or display immaturity – losing privileges until they prove they are ready to play fair.

Thanks to your coaching, your young teens now begin to understand who they are, where they are going and what they want in life! Once again the parent and child relationship changes. If you stay in the lifeguard stage or police-mom mode when your preteen needs a coach, and you don’t listen and given them the attention they need as they navigate these transitional stages the consequences can be devastating. It’s tempting to try at this point to be a bigger tougher police-mom – but that’s not going to benefit anyone.

You now become an “Mentor” helping them to evaluate their options, and giving them wise advice to help them grow into adults. You model for them what life looks like in the real world and teach them how to operate in it by your side.

You intentionally create time and space for open communication and take time to listen and speak into their lives. You are proactive and available, and your kids know that you will hold them accountable, and be there supporting and encouraging them as they prepare to launch. You intentionally give them more and more freedom, space, responsibility and ownership of their own path.

You are no longer the lifeguard, the police-mom, or even the coach – your relationship with your child is becoming one built on mutual respect, as they get older – though the parent still has the authority to pull the plug or take away the keys if the child abuses their freedom or engages in stupid and dangerous behaviors. Mom is still the boss, but your goal is to teach them to be their own boss. In general they should have a peaceful growing happy relationship with the parents who no longer treat them like babies or little kids. If they are constantly resisting and avoiding you- it’s probably cause you are stuck in a parenting style better suited to little kids. Grow up, and they will too. When they feel trusted and respected they will shine. But that doesn’t mean to throw them to the wolves, allow them to hang out with gangs, or give them unlimited time with an unlocked phone.

Once your kids are declared “adults” you no longer have a place of legal authority or obligation. If your kids grew up feeling like mom and dad were just playing police year after year, they are going to get out and avoid contact, because they finally have freedom, and that means freedom from your aggressive parenting style. If you were a good coach and a kind advisor in the tween and teen years you will have a new role in your relationship with your adult kids… they will seek you out as a trusted “Consultant” they will come back to you on their own terms, when they need advice, help, guidance and support. The relationship becomes one that looks friendship between two adults who care deeply about eachother, where the younger respects and honors the older, and values their advice and support.

If you think back on your relationship with your own parents, if your relationship with them was struggle and still is, there is a good chance they never outgrew one parenting style or another as you grew up, and you always felt like you were being controlled, policed or not trusted… and maybe you wanted out. Maybe they were helicopter parenting who constantly swooped into rescue mode, when you needed to learn how to handle your own problems. Maybe they didn’t take on a role of protector or guide at all, maybe they were so focused on their busy lives that they expected you to make it on your own, maybe they were too permissive and failed to provide boundaries from a young age, leaving you to fend for yourself.

Whatever the issues might be, you are a parent who cares deeply enough to homeschool and you were willing to sacrifice so much to do this! You want to create a safe and vibrant environment for them to grow, and as you do- don’t forget to grow too.

Are your kids struggling with their relationship with you? Maybe it’s time to quit the police role and start parenting more like a coach. Maybe they need a mentor, not a lifeguards.

What parenting phase are you stuck in?

(Just a quick note, as I wrote this post I was mostly thinking about my relationship with the children born into my home, and the stages of parenting that began in the early days of childhood. I also am parenting five kids who came to our family five years ago after experiencing unspeakable abuse and abandonment, along with five years in a government run orphanage in Ukraine. Parenting kids with trauma is a whole different thing. I have shared a bit about that here and in a podcast with Durenda Wilson. )